Category Archives: Lobby Book

Originally appeared in the Perkins Lobby Suggestion Book.

Duke Libraries, Lobby Book

Passionate about library access!

Now that they have put a card reader for the door over yonder (next to where this book sits) [arrow pointing to Perkins lobby entrance doors], why can’t students effing swipe in here and why do we still have to go to the main entrance after-hours? [3568B]

There are five card swipe access points for Perkins and Bostock Libraries: one at the 1928 entrance, one at the 1968 entrance, one at the outside door to von der Heyden Pavilion, and one each at the doors to Perkins and Bostock at the bridge. After 10.00 pm when the Libraries are open, students should be able to swipe in at any of these doors. When the Libraries are closed, students who want to study in the von der Heyden Pavilion or Gothic Reading Room need to swipe in at the 1928, 1968, or von der Heyden doors, since the other two lead directly into the (closed) facility. If you’re having access issues (and I have on occasion), you’ll need to check with the DukeCard office.

By the way, the 1968 entrance (which is the one near the Answer Person notebook) is considered the main entrance, a fact that will be spectacularly obvious following the final phase of the Perkins Library renovation.

Duke, Lobby Book, Relationships

Getting married in Duke Chapel

When should you sign up to get married in the Chapel? (average waiting list time?) [3568C]

Great question. Duke Chapel has a wonderful series of web pages about getting married in the Chapel.  In addition to checking out these pages, you should address any questions related to getting married at Duke Chapel, including the average waiting list time, to Mrs. Mollie Keel, Duke Chapel Wedding Coordinator, at:

Box 90974
Durham, NC 27708-0974
mollie.keel@duke.edu
919.684.8150

Lobby Book, Relationships

Complicated relationship

Why would a close friend stop talking to you for a long period of time, act abrasive, then give a heartfelt apology (or at least what seems like one) and tell you that you’re a good friend and that they love you only so they can start ignoring you once again?  Does it make the friendship more complicated if one of the friends is a guy and the other is a girl? [3563A]

If this person is acting this way, I’m wondering if you’re really as close as you think you are. Your question about gender-related complications makes me think there’s more to this story. Roller coasters always make me dizzy, so I avoid them.

Lobby Book, Relationships

The best answer: have tons of fun

What should you do if someone you once were friends with now ignores you when you walk by? [3561C]

I’d probably move on and, even better, let the person see you having tons of fun with other people.  Honestly, don’t give this former friend the satisfaction of knowing you’re thinking about it even.  Obsessing can become terribly self-destructive.  Remember what G Love says: if you’re hatin’ then you sure aint livin’.

Lobby Book, Relationships

Clueless in Durham

How do I tell a friend to stop bugging a girl who isn’t interested?  He thinks it’s romantic to “be patient” but she hates it.  It’s been over a year! [3563C]

Incredible that he could be that obtuse after an entire year.  Hearing it from a friend (you) might not be sufficient to crack this thick’s nut.  Perhaps the focus of his attention should find a nice but direct way to tell him “no thanks.”